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As I have said in my previous write-up, I was a brat in childhood though not a proud one, I regret it big time now. My mother is very innocent and is far away from the realities of modern life. She is happy in her own circle of life, doing her work and listening to the radio. She is a technologically challenged person, though now she is active on WhatsApp & Facebook, she still struggles with a lot of things. She is the same person now, that she was 25 years back. I was a tantrum queen when it was for my mother, in front of everyone else, I was an obedient girl who followed every single rule laid out by elders.
One day my mother was unable to change the CD in a VCD player and I was annoyed at her lack of knowledge, “Mummy you don’t really know anything.” This used to be my dialogue for everything she did not know. I was a teenager and did not care about all the things she knew and the things that she taught me. I feel terrible about my behavior now, but I also don’t understand why did my mother not say anything to me. Such kind of attitude needs correction at the right time. But I was not corrected. I learned this a hard way.
My son started speaking late, at the age of 2 he started speaking two words together. My happiness had no limit to hear him talk. But my happiness about his speech was limited. After all, he has my genes in him, he picked my rough attitude. When he was exploring his language and the world around him, he kept asking me a lot of questions. I was helpful to him and answered everything promptly. But the questions kept repeating, same things again & again. He knew the answers but still kept asking me the same questions. So, my answers kept repeating, “I don’t know”. I know it’s bad parenting, but it was off-limit.
One day, we had guests and one aunty wanted to freshen up. She asked me, “Where is the
washroom?” Before I could even say anything, my kid answered, “Don’t ask her, she does not know anything.” She laughed at his innocence and I was ashamed of being a bad parent. Kids don’t learn what is taught to them, they learn what they hear & see. It is very important to correct kids at the right time in the right way. I spoke to my mother about this incidence, and she laughed and said, “You were the same, I thought you will learn yourself that to underestimate others is wrong, but you did not learn & by the time I realized it was too late to explain it to you. Your kid is very young now and the time is now to correct him.”
Since then; I reply to whatever he says, I correct him, and I accept my mistakes graciously in front of him. Communication should never be a barrier between any parent & kids.
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This is so true
Once again well said.
Yes. We must be careful what we say and how we say.
Thank you
Well written.. Hidden truth of most adults.
Yes. I agree it is a learning process for all of us.
Thanks a lot
Well written…Same way I have also experienced…my son keep on asking questions..new n old all types of everyday….one of my had told me beforehand only that we have to answer there all questions with patience because this is the sign of their active brain development…
The the same I'm doing now😃
Thank you and All the best. Happy parenting